6 Tips on Writing Teardropping Wedding Vows
(include Wedding Vows examples from the Romantic to Personal!)
November 28, 2017 / Shuttering Hearts
In weddings, one of the most stressful things to do for both the bride and groom would be to think of what to write for their wedding vows. Unlike movies, the bride and groom think about their wedding vows almost effortlessly. In real life, you will have to spend more than usual thinking of what to write and say. After all, it’s your wedding and you wouldn’t want to mess up saying your wedding vows.
How do you deliver the perfect wedding vow?
Well, delivering a good wedding vow consists of two things: The speech and the vow itself.
Here are 6 tips you can use while preparing your wedding vows, no matter it is a romantic, personal or a modern wedding!
1. Reading Vows
Well, this isn’t a surprise, is it? If you want to be good in writing, one of the ways to improve would be to read more. Understanding how sentences flow would be one of the best ways to produce a good vow. For wedding vows, there are many books and articles online that offers you wedding vows for you to read through. By reading some ideas and examples of the wedding vows, you will have a glimpse of what to write. To make it more unique and special, all you have to do is putting in personal statements and memories.
2. Tone and format
How you want your wedding guests to feel when listening to you reciting your wedding vows? Do you want them to be romantic? Or would you prefer to be more humorous? Discuss with your fiance on the tone and format you want your wedding vows to be. Let’s say you want to have a romantic wedding vow, then the way you construct your vow would have to be more gentle, slow-pace besides the lovey-dovey context.
3. Take notes
What notes? Well, it is important to take down notes on the special things that happened in your relationship. Things like how you guys met, how did you guys fall in love are what make your wedding vows more personal. Trust us, your fiance would be surprised that you actually remember all those things in detail. Think of questions to ask yourself and write the answers down. One question that really hits people in the feels would be the question “when did you know you were in love”. Remember that every little bit of detail counts! Even the smallest ones that you think might not even matter.
Well, this shouldn’t be shocking at all. After all, they are called wedding vows for a reason. The definition of a vow is a solemn promise. Try thinking of a few promises that you would like to make to your partner in front of your guests. One tip for this would be to go broad. Meaning, make promises such as “I promise to support you”. By using the word support, you can mean supporting in cash, in times of need, etc.
Make sure you answer any questions that your guests may have and if possible, give them more information than you think they actually need. It’s better to give them more wedding details rather than them bugging yours for more information. Considering there might be some guests that want to ask additional questions or simply just didn’t understand something about your wedding, you can always create a Facebook group to ease the process.
5. Avoid Cliche
We know we said it’s okay to look for inspiration elsewhere but never ever copy them blindly! Wedding vows are the special moments where you have the opportunity to profess your love, by saying something deep down your heart! The more genuine you are, the more impact it will do to your wedding vows. It is always best if you include little romantic and personal details that relate back to your relationship with your fiance in the past.
6. Time your vows
An average of human attention span is only 8 seconds. Therefore, make sure to keep your wedding vows short and to the point. Summarize them but don’t make it lose its meaning. No matter how meaningful your vows might be, try to avoid making it more than 5 minutes when reciting. If you realized that your wedding vows are taking longer than 5 minutes, perhaps you might want to cut short in a few sentences. You want your fantastic and sentimental vows to be treated as the highlight session of your gorgeous wedding, don’t you?
We know writing a wedding vow from scratch can be a challenge, so here are some ideas and samples picked by our Editor for a head start!
>>> Follow these complete guide on Wedding Preparation Cheatsheet step-by-step to check if you have missed out any wedding details in the planning.
Romantic Wedding Vows Examples from your favourite TV shows
1. The Office - Jim & Pam
Jim's Wedding Toast: "Four years ago I was just a guy who had a crush on a girl who had a boyfriend. And I had to do the hardest thing I ever had to do, which was just to wait.
Don’t get me wrong: I flirted with her. Pam, I can now admit in front of friends and family that I do know how to make a photocopy. I didn’t need your help that many times. And do you remember how long it took you to teach me to drive stick? I’ve been driving stick since high school. For a really long time, that’s all I had: little moments with a girl who saw me as a friend. And a lot of people told me I was crazy to wait this long for a date with a girl who I worked with, but I think, even then I knew, I was waiting for my wife."
2. Friends - Chandler & Monica
Monica: "Chandler, for so long I wondered if I would ever find my prince, my soul mate. Then three years ago, at another wedding, I turned to a friend for comfort. And instead, I found everything that I’d ever been looking for my whole life.
And now, here we are, with our future before us—and I only want to spend it with you, my prince, my soul mate, my friend. Unless you don’t want to. You go! "
Chandler: "Monica, I thought this was going to be the most difficult thing I ever had to do. But when I saw you walking down that aisle I realized how simple it was. I love you. Any surprises that come our way, it’s okay, because I will always love you. You are the person I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. You wanna know if I’m sure?" (He leans in and kisses her.)
3. How I Met Your Mother - Lily & Marshall
Marshall: "There are a million reasons why I love you. You make me laugh and you take care of me when I’m sick. You’re sweet, caring, and you even created an egg dish and named it after me… It’s called “Egg Marshall” and it’s awesome. But the main reason that I love you is that you’re my best friend. You’re the best friend I ever had."
Lily: "I love you because you’re funny and you make me feel loved and you make me feel safe. And for our anniversary you gave me a sweatshirt that says, “Lily and Marshall: Rockin’ It Since ‘96”… but the main reason I love you is you make me happy. You make me happy all the time."
Real-life Celebrity Wedding Vows Examples
1. Prince William & Kate Middleton
Prince William : "I, William Arthur Philip Louis, take thee, Catherine Elizabeth, to my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse: for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy law; and thereto I give thee my troth."
Kate Middleton: "I, Catherine Elizabeth, take thee, William Arthur Philip Louis, to my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse: for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy law; and thereto I give thee my troth."
2. Bruce Willis & Demi Moore
Bruce Willis: "I, Bruce, take thee, Demi, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, through sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. With this ring, I thee wed, in here with, I pledge to you my love and devotion, so long as we both shall live."
Demi Moore: "I, Demi, take thee, Bruce, to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, through sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. With this ring, I thee wed, in here with, I pledge to you my love and devotion, so long as we both shall live."
3. Blackie Chen (黑人陈建州) & Christine Fan (范玮琪)
Sometimes writing your vows might be hard. However, think about it this way. It is going to be for your fiance. Wouldn’t you want to give it all you’ve got? Give it your best try. You may even do some research just so you can write better. In the case where perhaps English isn’t your first language, do consider writing in a language that you are comfortable with. Of course, make sure that your fiance understands the language you will be pronouncing your wedding vows in.